Heartbroken dad pens open letter to former self after death of newborn son
A father of three has penned a heartbreaking open letter to his former self three years on from his newborn’s premature death.
Greg Hughes, from Perth, took to Facebook in an emotional post after his son Riley died from whooping cough just 32 days after he was born in 2015.
In the wake of Riley’s death, Mr Hughes’ family has actively campaigned for all children to have a vaccination for whooping cough.
He began the letter by apologising to himself and noting how his life changed dramatically following his young child’s death.
“I’m sorry, truly I am. It’s shallow, hollow, meaningless and empty for me to say this to you right now. I know this because I’m you and you’re a wreck at this very moment,” he began.
“On paper it was ‘only’ your son that passed away. The reality of it is far crueler. The old you died the day his heart stopped beating and the entire foundation of your existence has been destroyed.”
At three weeks of age, Riley began displaying mild cold-like symptoms, and developed an occasional cough.
Despite doctors saying he was fine, Mr Hughes and his partner became concerned when their son barely woke during the night. They took him straight to Princess Margaret Hospital where he later succumbed to the sickness.
Mr Hughes said his relationships with friends and family were put to the test following Riley’s death, with some coming to an end.
“Certain people and institutions that you hold dear will fail you. Possessions you once cherished will become meaningless, locations you once frequented will become heartbreakingly painful memories and you’ll experience the emotional equivalent of being stranded on a desert island,” he wrote.
His post went on to give tips on how to deal with the devastating scenario, reflecting on his past decisions.
“Step up. People need you. Your family need you. Your daughter, more than just about anyone – needs you,” he said.
Their efforts were vindicated this week as the government announced their plan to reduce tax benefits if parents fail to vaccinate their children.
